SISter School™️: A Lesson in Conquering Internal Beliefs

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From empty nest to personal best, let's fly mom fly. Hi mums, it's Bobby Cheggwin from the Inspired Empty Nest and incorporating the Fly Mom Fly podcast. I'm in Australia at the moment from Ohio, where we're currently living, and I'm visiting my two girls. So I thought what can I do for you all whilst I'm away? And I thought, well, on the new website, which includes the Empty Nest Mums Directory, I have a whole section called Sister School and the SIS in Sister stands for Self Inventory, for the Soul, and that's where my blog is and that's where I have been uploading lots of blog articles to help you do your own self inventory and come to know yourself better, because when we know better, we do better. So I'm going to start today with the first one, and it's called a lesson in conquering internal beliefs. You know, when I've been personally battling life or others, I've come to realise that most of the time I'm not actually battling external circumstances, I'm actually wrestling with my own beliefs, and it's these beliefs that often dictate how I react to life's challenges. These are the internal battles I've found myself grappling with time and time again, struggles rooted in my own beliefs and perceptions, rather than external circumstances. So I'm wondering if any of them resonate with you. The first thing I may be reacting to is anger at my past. You know those cringe-worthy moments from the past. We've all got them right. When I find myself angry about something from my past, I've learnt that it's not just about the event itself. It's about my beliefs surrounding it. Maybe I believed I should have known better or that I should have made a different choice, but the truth is I did the best I could with what I knew at the time. Recognising and challenging these limiting beliefs can help release that anger. Sometimes I might be holding fear around change. Change is a constant in life and it can be seriously intimidating. But what's often at the core of this fear is a belief that we won't be able to handle it or that it will lead to something worse. When I face this fear, I've had to confront my belief that I need to have everything under control, and that is hard because I'm a bit of a control freak. Embracing change means challenging that belief and trusting that I can adapt and grow. Sometimes I'm denying my own inner strength, and this one's a biggie. When I've doubted myself, it's often tied to a belief that I'm not good enough or capable enough. But as I've dug deeper, I've realised that my inner strength is there. I just needed to believe in it. This means challenging the belief that I'm not strong or not capable and recognising all the times I've proven myself wrong, and sometimes I have frustration at other people's values. Now, we do live in a diverse world and sometimes other people's values can rub us the wrong way, but at the heart of this frustration can be a belief that our own values are the right ones. Does anyone relate? I found that it's crucial to challenge this belief and understand that different perspectives can enrich our lives and expand our horizons. And then we've got resentment about life's possibilities. Feeling star and resentful about not achieving what you desire often goes hand in hand with a belief that you're limited in some way. When I felt this way, I've had to confront the belief that I can't change my circumstances. By setting goals and believing in the possibilities, I've been able to challenge this limiting belief. Now, in the end, these battles aren't just about what's happening externally. They're about the beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world around us. Recognising and challenging these beliefs can be the key to unlocking personal growth, resilience and a more fulfilling life. So remember, when you're battling life, you're often battling your own beliefs, and you do have the power to change them. Until next time, from emptiness to personal best, let's fly, mom fly.