Day 6: Changes in Friendships

Bobbi Chegwyn: 0:28

Welcome to day six of 21 Days Together. Today we're going to talk about shifting friendships, adapting to evolving social circles in the empty nest phase. Now, for many mums, the journey of parenthood can be both fulfilling and challenging. From the first moment you hold your precious baby in your arms to the day they spread their wings and leave the nest, your life revolves around your children. However, as your children grow older and become more independent, the dynamics of your social circles might begin to shift, leaving you feel uncertain and nostalgic. Today, let's explore the phenomenon of changing friendships during the emptiness phase and offer insights on adapting to this new chapter in your life. Okay, let's look first at acknowledging the emotions. As your children leave for college or start their own lives, it's natural to experience a mix of emotions. You may feel proud of their accomplishments, yet sad about their absence. Similarly, shifting friendships can bring about feelings of loneliness or the fear of losing close connections. Remember that it's perfectly normal to feel this way, and acknowledging your emotions is the first step towards embracing change. Next, let's understand the transitions. So, just as you have seen your children evolve and grow, your friends have also experienced changes in their lives. Some may have become empty nesters before you, while others might be in different stages of parenting. These transitions can lead to varying interests, schedules and priorities, which could impact the time you spend together. Understanding these shifts will help you manage your expectations and approach your friendships with empathy. Now let's look at cultivating new interests. With more time on your hands, the empty nest phase presents an opportunity for personal growth and exploration. Engaging in new hobbies, volunteering or pursuing further education can open doors to new friendships and connections. These activities that have always intrigued you, whether it's painting, cooking, hiking or maybe dancing, join clubs or social groups that align with your interests, and you may find like-minded individuals who can become valuable friends during this phase of life. Next, we have prioritising communication. Maintaining strong friendships requires effort and open communication. Be proactive in reaching out to your friends, even if it's just for a quick catch-up call or a coffee date. Social media and technology have made staying in touch easier, so leverage these platforms to bridge the distance between you and your friends, share updates about your life, listen to their experiences and make plans to meet up whenever possible. Now let's look at embracing new technologies. Embracing new technologies can not only help you stay connected with old friends, but also provide opportunities to make new ones. Consider joining online forums, virtual book clubs or local social networking platforms. These platforms are excellent avenues for meeting people with similar interests and experiences. Engaging in discussions and sharing ideas in these digital spaces can lead to meaningful connections and friendships. Next, we have attending social events. Whether it's a community gathering, a local meet-up or a charity event, participating in social activities can broaden your social circles. Stepping out of your comfort zone and attending these events can lead to unexpected friendships and pleasant surprises. Networking with people from diverse backgrounds and age groups can enrich your life and provide you with new perspectives. Now let's look at noturing existing friendships. While some friendships may naturally drift apart, it's essential to nurture the bonds that are meaningful to you. Plan occasional get-togethers, girls' nights out or weekend trips with your closest friends. These moments of shared laughter and memories will strengthen your connections and provide a support system during this new phase of life. Show appreciation for your friends and express how much their presence means to you. Lastly, we have seek support. Remember that you are not alone in experiencing shifting friendships during the empty-nest phase. Reach out to other empty-nest mums who may be going through similar experiences. Join support groups or attend workshops focused on navigating this life transition. Connecting with others who understand your feelings can be incredibly comforting and uplifting. The empty-nest phase marks a significant transition in a mother's life, including the shifting dynamics of friendships. While it's natural to feel nostalgic about the past, embracing the present and future can lead to exciting new connections and experiences. Be open to change, cultivate new interests and prioritize communication to adapt to evolving social circles. Gracefully, remember, this phase of life is an opportunity for personal growth and the chance to build lasting, fulfilling friendships. Embrace it with an open heart and an adventurous spirit and you'll find that your social circles will flourish in ways you never imagined. Embracing the journey of adapting to evolving social circles will empower you to forge meaningful connections and experience joy and purpose in this new chapter of your life. Remember, you've got this Until tomorrow.